I've have had the same best friend for over 25 years and through thick and thin we have been there for each other. Now as older adults, things change and I find our lives going in different directions. This blog is dedicated to her and the discussion of relationships in general.
Friendship has many different meanings to different people, it is defined as the following:
- wanting the best for the other
- having sympathy and empathy
- honesty
- enjoy each others company
- trust
- reciprocity- a give and take
Friendship is the beginning of lovers, partnership and marriage thus it takes two to make it work and put forth the same effort. But what happens if there is no reciprocity? or the other not truly wanting the best for you? When a friend, lover or partner is not honest therefore the trust is broken how productive is the friendship? At what point do you bail ship, or remain loyal? Do you resist the sinking like the Titanic (thus friend SHIP), is that person holding you back? Out of loyalty do you let go and go down with the ship realizing you are on different life paths, when do you let go? Can you truly love someone at a distance?
Communal friendship is when you are only there in a time of need, this works for some people. Best friends tend to have a higher level of intimacy than traditional friendships so there should be a little more loyalty and commitment. Frenemies is a friend that is actually a enemy, you never really know.
Healthy relationships improve mental and social health. Although studies suggest 25% of people have no close confidants, is their health in jeopardy? Children who don't develop emotionally have difficulty with intimacy and friendships as adults, this explains why some people cannot be true friends to others.
I like the following quote "a true friend is one who walks in when others walk out"
Moral of this story, the vitamin for friendship is B1.
Peace, Love and Strength
T. Davis
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